First, Second, Third…
December 14, 2007
It is rare to find someone that has had only one relationship their entire life; even more rare to find that it is still going strong. Hook-ups and breakups are all part of life. I myself have had several. A select few I would have stayed with until the end of time, but I did not make them happy. Understandable. We learn more about the people we date as our relationships progress. To say we never had feelings for those we cared about would be innacurate. I myself still very much love my exes, but I know that we can never be again. Not just because I have found someone that blows them all out of the water, but moreso because of what was. One ex was not ‘into’ the affection that I abudantly share and another put their hands on me which is something I can never condone.
But I love them. Would do almost anything for them and would certainly have their back if they needed it. I am bigger than my exes make me out to be and in all actuality, only one has anything negative to say about me. Ironically enough, it is the same one who laid hands on me. But if she needed anything and I could provide it, I’d be there. Such is my nature.
I’ve seen a few people go through some break-ups lately and it has been peculiar to see. Some are amicable while others are down right wrong. I could not understand how people who were supposedly in love before were acting the way they are now. Saying the hurtful things, trashing their name, trashing their stuff, trashing their memories…why? And what is this deal with ’sloppie seconds’? I do not think I have heard that term used in relation to an ex until now. How does that make any sense though? Anyone who has had a first and broken up will have a second if they choose…so aren’t we all someone else’s sloppie seconds? So how can you consider this a cutdown on your ex…when you yourself are someone else’s sloppie second (you are your ex’s sloppie second…both the previous and current ex)? I guess I miss the cutdown really.
No one can say shit about my exes unless it is truth. I cannot argue with the truth, but I can ask that we change the subject. I shake my head. What more can I do. Breakups are hard on everyone, but if this is someone whom you claimed to care about, wouldn’t you be showing them more respect than to cut them down?
Tags: relationship, Hook-up, breakup, ex
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