Heartache
August 30, 2007
Someone told me recently that they would rather not fall in love for fear of a broken heart. She is a very smart individual– whether she knows it or not, I cannot figure out yet– to say that. Not smart to avoid love, but smart enough to recognize that she thinks it is love but does not want it to be. Smarter still to wait and find out. But not too smart to test her chances. Because what she does forget is that while she may not be willing to admit that she is yet in love, she could be and losing that love too soon could be harder than a lost love.
Heartbreak is a killer. It hurts so much that some would swear it could cause a heart attack; some swear it can kill. After all, when you lose that one that you fell in love with, you lose a part of your heart; your heart is a vital part of your body. How do you voluntarily put yourself in a position to become vulnerable?
But…what is wrong with vulnerable?
It hurts. But so does childbirth…and yet we have children. So do many things that we do not have to have, but still we go through with them knowing the pains they will cause– both physical and emotional.
But emotional pains are worse.
It has been said that you cannot remember the pain of being beaten, but you can remember the pain of the words that are thrown at you. Such is the pain of losing a loved one. How do you tell your heart to obey your mind? It is so hard to follow it in every day routines so why would it start to obey you in matters that are supposed to be its specialty? Love is the heart’s main event!
What is it that we fear about a broken heart? That we cannot pick up the pieces? That no one else will be able to supply that one piece that our lost love took with them? Or is it that we will actually have to start making our own selves feel as magnificent as we truly are? Do we put our self-worth in another’s eyes?
Why not take those days, months, or even years of happiness? Risk it all. Take the gamble. We only get one life. Why are we so scared of heartache? We only get one chance to do whatever it is we want to do. Why not live it to the fullest? Why not do it all? We cannot take anything with us more than our memories. Why not make our life memorable?
I am befuddled by a woman’s opinion of herself. Do they not know how beautiful they are? These are strong, smart, sexy women; there is no reason for them to not to overcome a heartache. They are entitled to happiness, entitled to love, and entitled to everything the world has to offer. What is it about a woman’s brain that they do not know their own value? Something encoded on their DNA? I try to tell them, but they brush it off as flattery. I try to make them see how valuable they are, but they think that is what friends are supposed to do. How great it will be when a woman will realize how beautiful she is just because of what her heart shows her to be. When I look at anyone, I look at them from the inside first. It is cliché, and unheard of in the modern world now, but it is true. Try it out; you will find that there are many more beautiful people in this world than you know.
Tags: fall in love, Heartbreak, heartache
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