SOLD!
January 31, 2008
Okay so in thinking about getting married to the love of my life, I was thinking about the legality of it in each state. I know the debates and the attacks on gay and lesbian marriages (and have made some comments on the matter before), but what I cannot understand is why people cannot look at it from a monetary point of view.
In today’s economy where everyone is complaining about debt and social security, why would you take other avenues of revenue off the table? Think about all that goes into preparing a marriage ceremony: the dresses, the tuxes, the catering, the marriage certificate, the band, the church, the car services, the plane tickets, the hotel rooms…etc. etc. etc…. Sure, gays and lesbians still have ‘gay marriages’, but how many forgo the bells and whistles knowing that it will not been seen as legal in the eyes of their judicials? So many gays and lesbians will have a ring ceremony or something special with just their friends, but so many would love for more. It is not just a straight girl’s dream to have the princess wedding.
And why not take the monetary value to another level? Why not enforce a tax or subsidy or some sort of extra fee for a gay or lesbian marriage? Now before you all get your panties in a bunch, hear me out. Now we all know the dissension between the Christian Advocates and the Gay Marriage Supporters as well as how much Americans cannot handle change, but we have to take some lessons from history. When Lincoln freed the slaves, there were not mixed socials the next day celebrating this newfound ‘justice.’ It has been said that Rome was not built in a day. We need to take what we can get in order to work towards what we want.
I myself cannot understand why dissenters waste their money on ruling everyone else’s lives, but for now, I would just be happy to be legally married to my love.
Tags: gay marriages, lesbian marriage
Opposites and Compliments
January 13, 2008
I hate pretzels, grape flavored anything, and most caffeinated beverages. I love lemonade, Cheese-its, and lasagna. Tiara loves pretzels, Grapico (grape soda), and Pepsi. She hates Cheese-its, lasagna, and is not a fan of lemonade. We both like Doritos, Starburst, and orange soda.
I could go on and on about the things that which I like she hates or which I hate she likes. I could also go on and on about the things we both like. I could include our shared interests and different interests, or our idiosyncrasies. When it all comes down to it, we are opposite in many ways, but they are compliments to each other. We also have many things that are alike between us. I think this is what makes our relationship so strong: not only do we have opposite tastes, but we also have common ones. So we can still be ourselves and enjoy each other at the same time. It is amazing how well we go together. Like the missing puzzle piece in each other’s lives.
I love how much she ‘gets’ me; we are such compliments, that I do not have to explain anything I mean when I talk to her. I love it.
Tags: different, compliments, opposite, common
God the Father AND the Son
January 11, 2008
What the Church says: God is the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit. He is the Holy Trinity of the Church and can be all three persons and one God at the same time. How? Why? The semantics don’t matter; God just is. The Son is separate from the Father, but is the Father… The Father sent His one and only son to die for us…He sent…himself…
What they say: How does that make any sense?! How can God be someone that He isn’t? One moment He is the Son, but the next He also isn’t? How can God be flesh and killed when God cannot be destroyed, and the Bible says that no eye has ever seen His face!? Oh, but because we have seen God the Son instead of God the God, we still have not looked upon..His..face… If God is omnipresent, what is the need for the Holy Spirit? God is everywhere inherently, right?
If God is the Son, why did he pray to the Father asking that he not have to take on the yolk that God the Father put on him? Jesus asked that the cup be passed away from him…but why ask himself? If Jesus was God the Son asking God the Father, wasn’t he really just God himself asking God himself to spare…himself? And if Jesus was God the Son, a manifestation of God the Father, how could he have the flesh to be spared (after all…God has no beginning or end..)? Either Jesus was a good man, faithful servant, loyal prophet, or he was a liar. Newspapers are filled with the lies and corruption of man; just because it is in print, does not make it valid. The Bible telling us that Jesus was God does not make him God.
What I say: When a born again Christian proclaims to have recieved Christ in their heart, they say that Jesus is in them; that he lives in their heart. Does Jesus really live in their heart? Of course it is silly to get so legalistic, but why get legalistic about the terms of God being both Father and Son?
The Bible says that man cannot look upon the face of God, but yet man was constantly looking for their Saviour. How could God make himself shown to man if not to change how He shows himself to man? God as the Son was the way to bridge the gap; from man to God, Jesus stretched out his arms for us.
There are many men that can be called great, good, loved men; but Jesus was perfect…how many other men are noted to be such? Sure we can discount him as just another good prophet…but was Mohammad perfect? Is there any other documents of another man, let alone a prophet being perfect? Perfect! We seem to let that concept escape our reasonings; who else but God could be perfect?! It’s like a cruel joke on us really: God can say ‘I know it can be done because I did it’ anytime we say it’s too hard.
I’m going to have to take a TBC (to be continued); like my other posts, these are just ‘openers’ to themes to come. Kind of like ‘Answers 101.’ Stay tuned for the rest of the semester when we hit Intermediate Answers. 
Tags: God, Father, Holy Spirit, Trinity
It Takes Two
January 10, 2008
It takes two to build a relationship; if only one person is in it, it will surely crumble. My ex was a liar, a cheater, and a thief. Do I still love her? Of course. Why? Because she was none of those things to me.
Our relationship was built on a lie. All the things she had told me about her life were mere figments of her imagination yet they were things she thought I wanted to hear. She never really knew me.
She would talk to women all the time; on the phone or in IM, she would justify her actions by saying I was not around for her. Yet, when we did go out, it was always like the first date each time. I think she had major hangups on our differences in age but would never admit them to herself. Even though she would comment on them in regards to our disagreements, she would never admit that the reason she would not show affection in public was because of our age differences. She wouldn’t show affection in front of her family for the same reasons I suppose.
She stole my bike, my Wii, my drums; told the police that I had given the Wii to her as a gift (another lie that anyone who knows me could see right through). But these are mere things. I can easily buy them.
I know she tells/told people the worst about me. 75% of it is a lie. I say 75% because I do have faults. Just like any other person, I am not perfect nor do I claim to be. Without knowing anything she says (I honestly do not care as I have moved on and would like to keep my image of her as someone she once was, not the impostor she is now), I do have to give her some benefit of the doubt.
It takes two to build a relationship. My ex would have everyone believe it was only her trying to build ours. She would never reveal my efforts (some of which she shot down without batting an eye). Perhaps one day she will grow up enough to be cordial again. Makes me wonder though: she so easily gave up, so easily turned on me, so easily bashes my name…had/has no problem talking to her ex who really did do something wrong, but cannot talk to me whom she actually wronged….
In our last weeks she told me she had grown to hate me. She told me she was through and that we should be done; she told me to not come around the grandkids so it would be an easy transition. This was about a week and a half before she beat the crap out of me. I cried many of days and night at the hate she had for me and the end. I tried to make amends, but she shot me down cold. At that point, I gave up. Simply. I was beyond drained and that was the breaking point–the fact that she could be so cold. That night when she asked who I was talking to on the phone, I wanted it to be someone else so I could rub it in, but it wasn’t. But she never would tell me who she was talking to, would talk to women in our bedroom with me present (but went postal on me for talking to someone on the phone…disrespectful she called it…too fucking funny), or would just be so courteous as to talk to women out of earshot range. Yet I was the one being disrespectful? And this warranted her and her 200 lb daughter beating the crap out of me? I seem to miss the point there every time I think about it. But I still love her. Why? Because that was not her. With each blow to my back, I could feel this anger she had stored up inside, but not all at me. Her father was terminally ill, life was not as she wanted it, and as she had already said, she was developing a hatred for me; all these things just seemed to release themselves that night. It was not her. She would not lay hands on me like that. I get teary just thinking about it because if I had it to do differently, I would tell her who was on that phone. I do know that we would still be over (recall she had already ended it, but with no place for me to go, I still had to save money to be able to move), but it would have been more amicable than that. And I’d like to think she would at least then consider calling me if she ever needed anything. I know she won’t now, but I worry about her. I know she will be okay, but unlike some, I cannot turn my feelings off like a light switch.
My new girlfriend is amazing. She realizes the give and take of a relationship. We compliment each other so well that it amazes me. I love her more than anything. She understands that I still love my exes because she feels the same. We both know that there is a reason they are our exes: because we loved them, but it just did not work out; nothing more. Just because they have ‘ex’ titled to them does not change our love for them. I would never expect her to stop loving her exes nor do I ask her to; why would I ask something of my lover that I cannot do myself?
It takes two to build a relationship. So far, me and mine are doing pretty damn good.
Tags: It takes two, ex, relationship
