Numero Uno
June 30, 2008
In my previous post, I spoke of looking out for numero uno; or rather, that in looking out for number one, we should not exclude our friends, family, and partners. Yet I did not touch on the idea of actually taking care of yourself in doing so.
In a relationship, it is often common to see one partner being more dominant than the other. Whether this is a gender-based role that the two have taken on or a role that just developed over time, one is more in control than the other. Often the one shadows the other taking what they want, need, or just plain have to have while putting their partner second each time. They include them when needed no doubt, but usually they are not needed. Read more
Tags: relationship
ComPROMISE
June 17, 2008
The subtle art of give and take is often one that is hard to master especially in a relationship. Think about it: you grow up as a kid having to listen to others tell you what to do so you look forward to growing up and being your own person. You work towards independence and taking care of numero uno. Compromise does not look out for number one.
But what is a relationship but a joint venture of two individuals? You sacrifice the ‘I’ for ‘us.’ What it comes down to now is ‘is it worth it?’ When you are seeing someone, engaged, or even married, you are committing part of yourself to another person if not more. This means you cannot constantly be making decisions that are only beneficial to yourself or without considering your partner. While yes, there are some decisions that can and should be made for yourself and by yourself, important decisions should involve your significant other.
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Tags: decisions, significant other
Word!
June 3, 2008
Never try to play mind games with anyone of some intelligence; even better still, never play them with a genius. A genius can not only follow, but also trip you up. You have to backtrack, find where you went wrong, and then correct it. Then it no longer has any clout; you just changed it to fit your needs. To fit your vision.
Why try the games with a fellow intellect? And then look at them like they are dumb? Like they do not actually realize what the hell you are saying? You know they know, but still try to run the circles in their head hoping this time it will work. It doesn’t. Now what? Read more
Tags: mind games, intelligence
