ComPROMISE
June 17, 2008
The subtle art of give and take is often one that is hard to master especially in a relationship. Think about it: you grow up as a kid having to listen to others tell you what to do so you look forward to growing up and being your own person. You work towards independence and taking care of numero uno. Compromise does not look out for number one.
But what is a relationship but a joint venture of two individuals? You sacrifice the ‘I’ for ‘us.’ What it comes down to now is ‘is it worth it?’ When you are seeing someone, engaged, or even married, you are committing part of yourself to another person if not more. This means you cannot constantly be making decisions that are only beneficial to yourself or without considering your partner. While yes, there are some decisions that can and should be made for yourself and by yourself, important decisions should involve your significant other.
I am befuddled by the men and women who choose to be alone and live for themselves. What are you dying for? You live to die and nothing more. How dull, drab, and dreary. Why not spend your days in love? Why not spend your life living for more than just yourself? It is such a great feat. Such a great feeling. And such a great life. Sure, you have to use that ’compromise’ system, but look at what you gain; you gain so much more than had you stuck it out on your own.
Sure, you gain heartahce, headache, and just plain aches, but you also gain happiness, laughter, love, help, guidance, companionship, support, and more. To be in love is a feeling that I am sure that words cannot express. When I look at my lover, I smile as big as I can and my whole heart melts. Every single time. Daily I am excited about her. I am elated to be with her. I cannot get over how amazing she is and that she is mine and I am hers. I love her. And I would not give it up for anything. Even if I could have a better job, more money, and more material things, what do they do for me? They cannot make me laugh, make me feel safe, make me feel period; they will not love me, hug me, kiss me, and support me. At the end of the road, I want to know that I lived a life filled with love and happiness; not money and contentment.
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