What is Love?
August 24, 2008
Have you ever been in love? How do you know? What is to say that it isn’t just infatuation, lust, or desire confused for love? Is your lover always on your mind? Do they make your heart smile just thinking about them? Does it pain you to be away from them for mere hours? How do you know that you are in love?
I’m in love. I know it. I’ve never felt this way before about anyone. You never know what true love is until it hits you like a ton of bricks. Daily we express to each other how much we love each other as though it is still the first day being together. We are still as strong today as the first, and more in love today than yesterday. It astounds me. I am in awe of the ‘us’ that we are. We don’t let the other fall because we have what the other needs. Where I am lacking, she is strong, and where she is lacking, I am strong. We fit together like Yin and Yang. Read more
Tags: infatuation
I Love You
August 12, 2008
In a previous post I talked about my character and personality and about how we should tell the people love why we love them as we do. I practice this idea daily with my girlfriend whom I love very much. She brightens every day with her smile, and not a day passes without getting a good, hearty laugh out of her. She truly keeps me balanced.
I let her know why I love her by telling her directly why it is I think she is as amazing as she truly is. I also take it a step further and actually do things that make her happy. I make sure that she has the things that she wants just as she tries to make sure that I am happy too. I love the way we do ‘us’. Read more
Tags: character, personality, balanced
Intentions
August 10, 2008
Everyone has their own motives for doing, saying, and acting the way they do. Funny thing is that with modern society, we do not trust ‘Goodwill Towards Men’ anymore. Everyone has to have a motive, right? No one could possibly be doing something ‘kind’ without getting something for themselves in return…right? Gone are the days where you could find a bed and a warm meal merely by looking for a candle in the windows, and gone are the days where a community meant something more than PTA meetings and golf memberships. Read more
Complexity
July 6, 2008
The mind is a powerful tool. My mind in particular is always going; it is always formulating a new task, goal, idea, or scenario. With that said, I always have something to say, but do not always know how to say it. Because everything is always so jumbled in my complex mind, I cannot always get it out! Sometimes it is not even that I cannot get it out, it is merely that I do not have the time or the focus. Like right now I have a blog post waiting to be posted that I have yet to finish writing. It will be a long one to say the least, but I am not in the right mind frame to finish. I would have finished it when I started it, but I got too busy to do so, and now it remains in my drafts folder. I hate it because it will be a good post (as all my posts are, lol); I say this because it will be full of meat. Read more
Tags: complex
Numero Uno
June 30, 2008
In my previous post, I spoke of looking out for numero uno; or rather, that in looking out for number one, we should not exclude our friends, family, and partners. Yet I did not touch on the idea of actually taking care of yourself in doing so.
In a relationship, it is often common to see one partner being more dominant than the other. Whether this is a gender-based role that the two have taken on or a role that just developed over time, one is more in control than the other. Often the one shadows the other taking what they want, need, or just plain have to have while putting their partner second each time. They include them when needed no doubt, but usually they are not needed. Read more
Tags: relationship
ComPROMISE
June 17, 2008
The subtle art of give and take is often one that is hard to master especially in a relationship. Think about it: you grow up as a kid having to listen to others tell you what to do so you look forward to growing up and being your own person. You work towards independence and taking care of numero uno. Compromise does not look out for number one.
But what is a relationship but a joint venture of two individuals? You sacrifice the ‘I’ for ‘us.’ What it comes down to now is ‘is it worth it?’ When you are seeing someone, engaged, or even married, you are committing part of yourself to another person if not more. This means you cannot constantly be making decisions that are only beneficial to yourself or without considering your partner. While yes, there are some decisions that can and should be made for yourself and by yourself, important decisions should involve your significant other.
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Tags: decisions, significant other
Independent Dependency
May 14, 2008
I love with my whole heart. I often get taken advantage of because of my weakness for seeing others happy before myself. To my detriment, I will always put everyone else first. I so want to reach for what I deserve and what I want, but I do not feel worthy often times. It is not that I am not worthy either. I deserve happiness. I deserve to be loved unconditionally. I deserve to be that one special person. I deserve to achieve my goals and dreams. I deserve anything I want. The thing is, I do not want much.
I want to be loved, but only by her. I want to be successful, but not in the world’s terms of success. I want kids, but only her kids. And I want to spend the rest of my life with my heart.
I am a good person in general. I am loyal, honest, faithful, caring, kind, and just plain good. I love with my whole heart. If you are my friend, I tell you; I let you know how important you are to me, what you mean to me, and how awesome you are. If you are my lover, there is not one moment where I miss the chance to tell you how much I love you. Read more
