Law of Attraction
September 4, 2007
Why are women not attracted to all men? Why are men not attracted to all women? It is natural, right? It is the way to be; to be attracted to the opposite sex. So why are you not attracted to all members of the opposite sex?
You cannot sit there and tell me it is because of their personality or how they look. They are a man, and you are a woman; you should be attracted to each other and be with each other because this is the way of God. Never mind that you do not have any feelings for this man or this woman; God says you must be attracted to the opposite sex so you must deny your true feelings and be with that man or woman.
How logical does that sound? How logical is it to say that God wants us to only be with men or women no matter if we are attracted to them or not? We should deny our feelings just to be with the opposite sex? Because this is how God wants it?
The Bible warrants that your body is a temple that should be kept pure. But because God knows that the flesh is weak, He made an exception to say that we could have sex in the unity of marriage. To be totally devoted to God would be to abstain from sex, but God does not penalize us for doing it when married. Just because He does not penalize us, does not mean that He supports the idea. God would still rather we are abstinate. How would we populate then? Exactly. Does reading the Bible translated from the Greek and Hebrew origins really make sense often?
Foundations of many belief systems are borne on the simplest of ideas. A small verse in a book of hundreds of chapters can make or break a system! It is the innate ability of the human race to take the smallest of things and blow them out of proportion. It is the legalistic approach to religion that condemns everyone. The Bible says there is no God and as such we should not believe in God…it does say it you know. ‘The fool sayeth in his heart “There is no God”‘. But because the Bible says it, I should accept it, and condemn others by its words. Never mind the context, the times, or who it is spoken to or about because it is in the Bible, and that Book is God-breathed.
By Christian logic, there should be no reason for a woman or man to be single. We should all be attracted to each other and thus be with each other. There is no excuse because God said it. Never mind that God also said that we should gouge our eye out if it offends us for example, by looking at a woman with lust. After all, that is just an allegory. We are allowed to pick and choose what things God meant literally and what things He did not mean literally. Why? Because we are Christians and what we say goes.
Tags: attracted, opposite sex
Senseless Censorship
September 1, 2007
What is censorship? Nothing more than a regulation on personal preference and opinion. People do not like to hear or see things that will offend THEM so they sanction free flow. And what is gained? We all know that if we bottle up our emotions or thoughts that they will explode on someone. It is by capping that free flow that we ensure the explosion.
Why censor? To protect our kids? And what do they get exposed to? Whatever we let them, right? And then what? Protect our own eyes? Who forces us to look? Censorship seems senseless especially with the free flow of information and sources found on the internet. If anything, your children will see it here before they see it anywhere else.
Censorship? Seems to be another reason for the big men to beat their chests.
Tags: censorship, offend
Heartache
August 30, 2007
Someone told me recently that they would rather not fall in love for fear of a broken heart. She is a very smart individual– whether she knows it or not, I cannot figure out yet– to say that. Not smart to avoid love, but smart enough to recognize that she thinks it is love but does not want it to be. Smarter still to wait and find out. But not too smart to test her chances. Because what she does forget is that while she may not be willing to admit that she is yet in love, she could be and losing that love too soon could be harder than a lost love.
Heartbreak is a killer. It hurts so much that some would swear it could cause a heart attack; some swear it can kill. After all, when you lose that one that you fell in love with, you lose a part of your heart; your heart is a vital part of your body. How do you voluntarily put yourself in a position to become vulnerable?
But…what is wrong with vulnerable?
It hurts. But so does childbirth…and yet we have children. So do many things that we do not have to have, but still we go through with them knowing the pains they will cause– both physical and emotional.
But emotional pains are worse.
It has been said that you cannot remember the pain of being beaten, but you can remember the pain of the words that are thrown at you. Such is the pain of losing a loved one. How do you tell your heart to obey your mind? It is so hard to follow it in every day routines so why would it start to obey you in matters that are supposed to be its specialty? Love is the heart’s main event!
What is it that we fear about a broken heart? That we cannot pick up the pieces? That no one else will be able to supply that one piece that our lost love took with them? Or is it that we will actually have to start making our own selves feel as magnificent as we truly are? Do we put our self-worth in another’s eyes?
Why not take those days, months, or even years of happiness? Risk it all. Take the gamble. We only get one life. Why are we so scared of heartache? We only get one chance to do whatever it is we want to do. Why not live it to the fullest? Why not do it all? We cannot take anything with us more than our memories. Why not make our life memorable?
I am befuddled by a woman’s opinion of herself. Do they not know how beautiful they are? These are strong, smart, sexy women; there is no reason for them to not to overcome a heartache. They are entitled to happiness, entitled to love, and entitled to everything the world has to offer. What is it about a woman’s brain that they do not know their own value? Something encoded on their DNA? I try to tell them, but they brush it off as flattery. I try to make them see how valuable they are, but they think that is what friends are supposed to do. How great it will be when a woman will realize how beautiful she is just because of what her heart shows her to be. When I look at anyone, I look at them from the inside first. It is cliché, and unheard of in the modern world now, but it is true. Try it out; you will find that there are many more beautiful people in this world than you know.
Tags: fall in love, Heartbreak, heartache
Picture Perfect
August 28, 2007
Picture this: you have a son or a daughter and they are your miracle child; the doctors said you could not have children, but low and behold, here they are. They are perfect and no one will ever tell you otherwise. God gave you this gift and you will treasure it. You make sure this child is well-provided for, is safe, is loved, and is afforded all the things in life that they desire and can be given. Such is parenthood.
Fast-forward and your child tells you that they are gay. They have thought long and hard about who they are and are happier being with someone of the same sex rather than the opposite sex. It is hard news to hear because you know the sorrows they will encounter because of this. You begin to wonder what you did wrong, how this could have happened, and if it is just a phase. But you know it is not. You know your child. You know who they are just as much as they do. So you love them.
Now picture this: a jogger in the park notices something in the bushes and finds a human hand. It is connected to a body that is so beaten and tattered that it makes it hard to identify the race let alone the identity. You get a call at 5 AM from the local police asking to identify a body that may be your child’s. You arrive to a scene that is beyond imagination. They do not show this type of horror in the movies. It is the birthmark on the left ankle that assures you…this is your child.
This is your miracle baby. This is the child that you stayed up with when they were sick, cheered at every game they had, listened to when they wanted to lay their burdens down, and cried at their graduation. This is the baby that you gave to the world in hopes they would take as good care of them as you had. This is your child. This is the same child who looked into your eyes with fear as they told you they were gay. This is your baby. This is the same child who wept over the baby bird who died in your driveway, who helped the neighbor with her trash because she was too feeble to bring it to the curb, and who got beaten up in middle school for defending the new kid with a lisp. This disheveled body…this…is…your…child.
The imagery is vague and fictional, but for the woman whose Navy son was beaten so badly that the only form of identification she could use to identify his body with was a tattoo, it was a cruel reality.
Every person here is someone else’s son and daughter. Why is it okay to put another mother or father through the heartache of outliving their children when you would not want such an evil on yourself? If your children are attacked, abused, or hurting, would you not want to help them? Would you not want to do everything in your power to make the person hurting them stop or hurt themselves? Why then would you do that to someone else’s child?
It is the paradox of evil that is created. One fights another to avenge their brother, but then that other’s brother must avenge his brother. And so the cycle begins and never ends.
Tags: gay, abused, paradox of evil
